Listen To What Is Not Said

Today’s “Pay Forward” gift is social. “If you really want to understand me, please hear what I am not saying, what I may never be able to say" (Anonymous). What are those Alcoholics Anonymous members saying who are not coming to meetings? We could ask them why not or just invite them to a meeting. Time-out while I reach out to a person, I have not seen in a meeting for some time that does not mean they are not going to other meetings. Hold on while I check one out. I must have been inspired, I reached out to two. I have to be on the lookout for one of my major defects; withhold or withdrawing. Taking my life in my own hands, and what happens? A terrible thing; I have no one to blame but me. To avoid the common “drug; guilt and punishment” use I choose to stay in daily contact with other alcoholics. Who knows I may become a social butterfly. Ok, that may be a bit-of-stretch. One of the most difficult social skills I need to learn is when to say no. If we don’t have to say no once in a while, we are not being asked enough. Another difficult social skill to learn is asking of help. Ok, I’m asking you to “Pay Forward” today’s gift. Thy Love, Thy Will be done. 

13