Never Met A Stranger

Today’s “Pay Forward” gift is social. My older brother never met a stranger. He already had that gift when we were teenagers. Even adults loved his presence. We were snowed in the Chicago Airport for three days. By the time those three days were up, he knew something about almost everyone there. I was pretending I was reading a book so people would leave me alone. That little trip more or less sums up the difference between my brother and I. Somehow he mastered loving social skills; perhaps it was a gift of grace, or perhaps he worked on it in another lifetime. He knew nothing about A.A.’s Traditions, but he just intuitively lived some of them. “Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon A.A. unity.” He spontaneously found something in common with “strangers.” The basis for friendship and shared it. “The only requirement for A.A. membership is a desire to stop drinking.” The beginning requirement for a relationship is to want it, and a willingness to do what it takes to have it. He demonstrated that desire by reaching out to others, without qualifying them first. I have a lone way to go before I can express the social skills my brother had. I need those loving skills to come by grace. I am willing work on acquiring those loving skills in this lifetime; hoping the practice will carry over in the next life, if there is one. Thy Love, Thy Will be done. 

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